By Taylor Boyer
Unfortunately, we don’t always get what we want. It’s another sad truth of life. (There seem to be a lot of those). No matter how hard we try, sometimes things just don’t pan out. I understand how it feels to fall short of goals, and being the generous person that I am, I thought I’d offer some helpful suggestions as to how to get through the often-depressing stages that follow.
My first suggestion is to remain physically appealing at all times. The worst time to fall short of something is when you’re sure that you’ve got it. The period of time that precedes failure can often be the worst. The following week includes sleepless nights, an unshaven face, bingeing on Funyuns, and wearing large hoodies. However easy it may seem to sink into a state of reclusiveness and straight up patheticness, don’t; people will be watching to see how you handle failure.
The second piece of advice I have is to keep trying. Yeah, yeah, I know, it sounds really cliche, but let me expound on what I meant. If the chances of getting something may seldom, or possibly never, arise again, it can be very hard to pick yourself up after not succeeding. However, I’d suggest that you identify several broad goals you have in your life: things you have to work up to. After doing this, find alternate ways to ultimately get your way.
Third: make connections. The absolute best way to find more opportunities is to let other people find them for you. I’ve learned that networking is the equivalent to magic, and trust me, I don’t take comparisons to magic lightly. Like magic, networking can provide you with things almost instantaneously. While people won’t necessarily get in touch with you and inform you of opportunities all the time, it does happen. So remember, when things don’t work out the first time, get in touch with your contacts and seek out more opportunities!
Finally: don’t whine. Ask yourself this: What has whining ever done to help you? Nothing. First of all, no one like a whiner. Second, whining inhibits your ability to seek out more opportunities and keep trying. Instead of whining, immerse yourself in activities that can help you succeed. If you cared enough about something to slip into a state of depression over not getting it, you obviously care enough to work even harder to achieve greater.
I honestly hope this helps someone; it’s helped me. I’ve encountered failure enough to know that it is something that you can easily distance yourself from. I promise you that if you remain physically attractive, keep trying, make connections, and don’t whine, then you will find yourself happier and better off than you were before.